Showing posts with label temper tantrums. Show all posts
Showing posts with label temper tantrums. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

2 and counting...

so...the day has come...my sweet baby jacob has turned two. while he is still as cute as can be, and funnier than ever, he is DEFINITELY two! those of you who have spent time (even just a second) with jacob, can verify that he chooses to communicate through screaming. he is picking up a word or two here and there, but for the most part, we have just come to learn what each of his screams mean. i am always impressed, when andrew figures out what jacob is saying before either derek or i can!
jacob LOVES to play...and play anything...cars, trains, puzzles, art, sports...you name it, he's game! and if he's not, he'll let you know with a ear piercing scream :)
one of jacob's most recent hobbies is annoying the crap out of his big brother. he seems to have learned quite well, exactly what bugs andrew. he has been known to scream very loud in andrew's face, yank away whatever is in andrew's hand, push/hit/shove andrew...hmmm...this all sounds too familiar! oh, i get it...we are making headway with andrew, but someone wants to continue our challenge! well...i say...challenge accepted baby! been there, done that...we're pros now!
i don't have jacob's 2 yr stats...his appointment is tomorrow. i see birthdays as a time to reflect...so here we go...a walk (or crawl, rather) down memory lane of the past year with my baby, jacob ellis.


7.18.09

7.21.09

8.9.09
8.28.09
11.11.09
gotcha...this is andrew! amazing how much they look alike!

2.27.10
5.10.10
5.28.10
6.14.10

Monday, January 18, 2010

"the project"

while you may think this post, entitled "the project", is going to be about my recent dejunktification project...indeed it is about quite a different "project!" as many of you know, i tend to refer to jacob as my "easy going" child. in comparison to the many issues i've faced with andrew, jacob is typically a go with the flow kind of kid. those of you who have spent any time at all with jacob, also know though, that when he is not happy with something he let's EVERYONE know it, with his VERY LOUD shrieks and screams!

jacob and andrew started parent/child swim lessons last weekend. thinking that andrew might be a tough cookie about getting in the pool (as he's been in the past), i chose what i thought was the easy way out...taking jacob to his lesson. apparently when i made this decision, i had forgotten how much jacob despises being in the water...even the bathtub! as you can imagine, jacob pretty much cleared out the pool with his screams of discontent. i stuck it out though (as did everyone else!)...even though the 30 minute class seemed to last hours! i even had a complete stranger approach me in the locker room to tell me that she didn't think my child liked the pool...really lady...thanks for being so perceptive!!!

so...week 2...you should've seen the faces of the other parents when we arrived poolside. i'm not sure if they thought we wouldn't show up for week 2, or if they were just hoping it wouldn't be as bad as week 1. once in the water, one of the moms introduced herself and her son. i honestly think she felt really bad for me and was trying to be nice. well, the success of week 2 depends on who you ask. i thought it was a success...jacob cried almost, BUT NOT the entire class. he was calm enough to sort of participate in an activity with the group. if you ask the parents and the instructor, i have a feeling they would say that this week was not much better than week 1. in fact, the instructor told me that jacob is her "project!" she will get him to like the water by the end of the session...which is 7 weeks btw! the complete stranger from the week before, must have agreed with me on the outcome of this week's lesson...her comment this week..."he didn't seem to scream as much this week!!!"

i'll let you know how the "swim project" progresses! in the meantime, i'll leave you with a cute pic of jacob in the locker room. he was all smiles once we got out of the water!


Friday, September 12, 2008

back to school


after much drama (my son IS a drama king, remember!) we have survived the first week back at school. you all know that andrew does not like to do his "morning things", which consists of brushing his teeth, going to the bathroom and getting dressed. he knows that he must do these 3 things before heading downstairs in the morning. while you may think this is ridiculous, it is the only way to get him to do such things. hey, they say that preschoolers thrive on routine, right! well, andrew still likes to balk at this routine EVERY freakin morning. he very adamantly will say things like, "i'm not ready" or "not yet." this was all somewhat ok for the past 3 months, when we had nowhere to be in the morning and i couldn't really fight him on it, because i had a baby on my boob most of the time. all last week, i was fretting about what monday morning would bring. would he get ready or put up a fight? would he eat breakfast or go to school hungry? would we get to school by 10am? (btw - school starts at 9:30!) well, monday was great...getting to school at least! andrew did his morning things, jacob's hunger had impeccable timing and we were out the door on time...until i had to turn around twice because i had forgotten something. after the second time, andrew said "mom, are we going to school today or what!" kids...gotta love em! we got to school and andrew seemed ready to go. we found his new cubby and approached the classroom...and then it started..."mommy, don't leave me"..."mommy, i want you"..."mommy, i don't want to stay here." oy...the guilt! after about 20 minutes, and the onset of jacob's cries of hunger, i was able to scoot out of the classroom, with the promise of returning. when i picked him up after school, he looked so tired, seemed excited to see me (that's always nice!) and then said he wanted to stay for lunch bunch. i explained that he wasn't staying today, but maybe he could stay on wednesday. he asked if he could pick one of the school movies to bring home and i said sure. he was having a hard time choosing (that's putting it nicely) and i told him he had until the count of three to decide and then we were leaving. 1 - 2 - 3...still no movie..."ok andrew. we're leaving now." i began to walk away and that's when all hell broke loose. andrew proceeded to throw his biggest temper tantrum...truly an academy award winning performance! it had everything a tantrum should have...screaming, kicking, hitting, laying on the floor. i'd like to take this time to remind you that andrew goes to school at a synagogue! yes, not really the best place to throw a fit. however, i figured if nothing else, i had god on my side!!! i scooped andrew up and carried him to the car (kicking and screaming), all while pushing jacob in the stroller too. he continued to throw his fit for about half of our ride home and then i'm not sure what happened, but he decided it was time to stop. whew! i must say, i was quite proud at how i handled the situation. while i really wanted to scream a lot of four letter words, i remained calm and let the tantrum run its course.


ok...that was quite a recap of one day...so i'll skip the details and just tell you that wednesday and friday were better! oh, except he wouldn't eat breakfast on friday, and then screamed "i'm hungry" almost the whole way to school.
let's hope for the best next week!

Friday, August 15, 2008

Feel the Fear and DO IT ANYWAY!

today marked an important day in my life!. no, i did not win a gold medal or break any world records, but i did face a fear i've had for about 2 months now...

i went to the grocery store with both boys in tow!

some of you may be thinking, "big deal. i did that shortly after my second child was just born." well, to me this was a big deal...and let me tell you...i am not eager to do it again anytime soon! as we set out, i realized i forgot andrew's sippy cup...mistake #1. i also forgot to bring snacks for him...mistake #2. we drove to shoppers (where i normally shop) and they did not have ANY of the "kids love them, moms hate them" car shopping carts...so without even parking, i decided to go to giant, which always has plenty such carts. i started thinking this was going to be easy...since jacob was sleeping. as fate would have it, he woke up the second i put the car in park!

picture this...i unload the kids and we head for the car carts. in true andrew fashion, he can't decide which of the carts he wants to ride in...mind you, they are all EXACTLY the same. he picks a cart and gets in...ok, one kid down, one to go. CRAP...jacob's carseat won't attach to the cart...you've got to be kidding me. i try again...no go. i try another cart...no go. i tell andrew we have to go back to the car and get the baby bjorn. in fear of losing his cart, he throws a fit. i contemplate running back to the car with just jacob and having andrew save our cart, but that thought lasts only a minute, before all of the "scary mom thoughts" start running through my mind. so, we all head back to the car. i've got jacob in the bjorn and he's screaming his head off. the poor kid just wants to go to sleep. we cross the parking lot. thank goodness the cart is still there...still not sure what would have happened if it was taken...major meltdown i'm sure. i push the cart with one hand (those carts are hard to steer, you know!!!) and switch between patting jacobs tush and holding the pacifier in his mouth with the other hand. he falls asleep...we keep shopping. one hour an 15 minutes later i exit the store with groceries and both kids...SUCCESS! mind you, andrew now has icing all over his face, from the super sized smiley face cookie he ate while i shopped...hey, whatever works :)
come to think of it, i may have set a world record, for the longest single trip to the grocery store. it's definitely a personal record...maybe next time i can get it down to one hour! next time i won't lose time messing with jacob's carseat and the cart...i'll just do the bjorn!

Saturday, August 2, 2008

a simple equation

9 adults + 4 kids + 1 week + 1 beach house = endless fun and many memories!
(ok...maybe a few moments of bickering and short tempers too)

Craziest moments of our family vaca to the beach...

1 - Andrew asking "Are we there yet?" when we hadn't even exited the city of Alexandria
2 - Andrew not sleeping AT ALL during the 5 hour trip (even after we woke him at 6am!)
3- Jacob having a massive "blowout" on me on day 2 of our trip - can we say "holy crap"...literally...it was ALL over!
4 - What's irritating? 1 kid screaming in the car. What's more irritating? 2 kids screaming in the car!
5 - Andrew throwing an absolute temper tantrum and fit when we tried to get him to go to the beach! Are you kidding??? Didn't we just drive 5 hours to get here???
6 - Andrew throwing a 30 minute tantrum protesting brushing his teeth...even though he knew putt-putt was waiting for him!





My sanity saviors during our vaca...
1 - coffee, coffee and more coffee - no decaf here baby!
2 - beer, beer and more beer - create your own 6-pack at food lion!
3 - wine, wine and you got it...more wine! - yes, my breast pump came in handy
4 - me, the beach and my book - for 2+ hours straight (thanks derek!)
5 - night out with derek, leigh, eric and chris
6 - walks/runs with my beloved iphone...remember, it's an ipod too :)




Wednesday, July 16, 2008

four weeks flew by...

it's hard to believe that jacob has been a part of this world for almost 5 weeks now! to be honest, i can't really remember what life was like before jacob. he is such an incredibly good baby. other than some bad bouts of gas, he pretty much just does the baby rotation of eating, sleeping and pooping. jacob is becoming quite the "foodie", as he tours some of our favorite spots...





one thing i definitely forgot from the first go-round of parenting, is just how much sleep deprivation really sucks! i find that i am quite irritable during the day, due to my lack of sleep. unfortunately, andrew tends to be on the receiving end of my bad moods and snappiness. he is adjusting to all of this in ways that only a 3 1/2 year old could. as far as his relationship with jacob, i couldn't ask for anything more...he is very loving and helpful. it's his attitude toward me that has become a bit unbearable. he has decided that his way of handling anger, is by hitting & kicking me and saying some really not nice things. we spend a lot of our days handling temper tantrums and meltdowns. while i'm trying every day to deal with this a little better, i am confident we will all be fine in the end. hey, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right??? let's just hope it doesn't kill me first!!!

amidst all the chaos, i'm trying to make sure that andrew still gets his big boy time, to play with his friends. see some fun pictures below...

ebin and andrew


fireman andrew


lily and andrew

so, while i haven't lost the baby weight and i've gained quite a bit of what i like to call "nursing acne", the past month has been a whirlwind of exciting times. i'll leave you with one last picture of jacob in his "new womb"...my kangarookorner pouch. thanks to the singer family for this wonderful gift. i can't wait to carry jacob in it at the beach next week!

 
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